IMHO - any list I see that says *Best* or any other similar phrase (classic, must-read, etc) or even just Recs - I take to be that person's personal *hug to their chest* fics - and nothing more than that. Every reader (ever reccer) is different. When I see a lovely long list of recs from someone new, I usually skim through it and if I see some fics that I have read and enjoyed I then, and only then, look at the other fics on the list. Because I know of the person has liked a fic that I've liked that it is likely I'll find something new and delightful on the list.

As far as my own stories being on a *best of* list or not on a *best of* list - I'm thrilled when a story I wrote is on it but not at all surprised when, as usually is the case, my stories aren't on it. It is okay, there are so many amazing stories out there, not all of them can be recc'd. These lists are personal and I don't take any offence at not making of a *best* of list.